Our Rituals Become Our Lives

Our rituals become our lives.

Set up your goals so that if you get the first hour of the day right, the rest of it follows.

People often have goals of "being happier." All right…our emotions are controlled by what we focus on, how we use our bodies, and our self-talk, the internal monologue.

So the "cat" here is just a generalized feeling of happiness. I can think of a couple of ways to lock this in:

1) Focusing on successes. If success is "the progressive realization of a worthy goal" then choose a goal that makes you happy, and see what "atomic" daily action you have to take. A tiny step. Then DO THIS FIRST. In the first hour of the day. Certainly "Done by One." Make it as small as "do the Firedance morning ritual" or "write one sentence a day."
2) Use the Five Minute miracle: five times a day, stop and BREATHE properly for sixty seconds. And as you do, visualize or mentalize all you have to be grateful for.


In both cases, we are focusing on the "dog": the thing we can consciously control, as a means of befriending the "cat" which represents our emotional and unconscious minds, or the reaction we want from the external world.

Our rituals become our lives.