BLESSING DANCE PART FIVE
"For breath is life, and if you breathe well you will live long on earth."
- Sanskrit Proverb
A very, very, powerful meditation is to "breathe into your heart." This implies BOTH a diaphragmatic breath AND "listening to your heartbeat." This aligns the body, emotions, and mind all in an extremely positive way. Once you get the "hang" of it, you can do this for sixty seconds every hour, and remain centered, energetic and in a state of gratitude all day long.
So last step in the Blessing Dance. First what we've already establish:
Bow to each other
Right hand over each others' hearts, left hand over their right. Hold gaze and breathe slowly 10X
Chant "you are my beloved. I open myself to you." (hands over hearts)
Hold eyes and breathe 5X (hands over hearts)
The last step is to hug and breathe together 5X
That's actually it. A little kiss at the end is also our custom, but the core program is 2-5. We've been doing this for about a year and a half, and it is SPECTACULAR. I can feel the connection, and feel my own lack of focus or alignment as I gaze in her eyes. I work to sink through the daily familiarity and remember the miracle of falling in love with this amazing woman. Five days a week we do this.
The connection with the individual "Morning Ritual" should be obvious. As an individual, you need to love yourself enough to connect to your survival drive, your warrior self, and find the willingness to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to achieve your goals and objectives. This is dangerous unless you formulate those objectives in alignment with the Three Gates and Three Centers. Do that…and you can take your brakes off and just GO FOR IT!
With the Blessing Dance, you are aligning not your own internal aspects, but the aspects, hopes, dreams and needs of two different people. If the core secret to individual success is this internal alignment, all the aspects of personality, emotion, action and thought moving in the same direction…that's what the Morning Ritual accomplishes, one step at a time.
The Blessing Dance creates a magnificent relationship that takes your entire life to a new level. One of the most interesting quotes in "Think And Grow Rich" says something to the effect that when the emotions of Faith, Love, and Sex all combine, you have opened the door to genius.
Well…the next step in my life with Tananarive will require everything we've got. I won't be able to leave anything "in the locker room." We are asking for the moon, and sorry, but the only chance of that is that you are NOT fighting yourself, making fear DRIVE you instead of FIGHTING you. Human laser time.
This is the creation of a "relationship laser": two people aligned in harmony for the same intent.
I'm right on the edge of committing to a "Ninety Day Love Diet". Every day for three months focusing TOTALLY on giving Tananarive more love, more support, more passion than ever before, than she's ever had in her entire life.
To do this, I have to finish resolving some conflicts within my own heart, so that I feel totally safe in doing this. I can feel that I'm used to holding a little something back for myself. I CANNOT do this if I don't have that clarity. It will take everything I have to give everything I've got to this woman I love so much, and want to love even more.
I have to empty my cup to make room for what is next. The Morning Ritual and the Blessing Dance and the Five Minute Miracle have created an amazing life for me, for us. But I want more. I want what's next.
Why? At least partially because I have wounds, as we all do. And I ask myself: what would my life have been had I had a perfect and nurturing environment instead of the pain and loss, the money struggle that destroyed my mother and lack of a father, the social prejudice and lack of role models?
What would I have been? Well…one thing that is clear is that I'd be able to love without fear, without withholding. That the need to be safe, to protect my ego, has prevented me from experiencing love to the greatest degree possible. I deserve this. A woman like Tananarive deserves nothing less than that. And just as the world is about to fall in love with her more deeply (wait until you read REFORMATORY!) I need to support her 100% and help her stay balanced in the coming storm.
Our home, our love, has to be the eye of that storm. And the only thing stopping me is fear. That's my challenge.
I will know that I have gone beyond my wounds, my history, not just if I have the fitness and health, the inner peace, the career success, but when I am so centered in myself that I can give myself away with no fear and no bean-counting. Just "be" in the space of love.
For Three Months. For a "Summer of Love."
This is the next challenge I was looking for. And boy oh boy…are we gonna have fun!
Namaste
Steve
